Love Style Test

Answer 21 either-or questions about dating moments and get one of 8 love styles on three axes: how you show feelings, how much closeness you want, and how you handle a fight. Send the link to your partner or a friend to compare answers.

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Which is more like you?

You're falling for someone you've been flirting with. You…

🧭 The 8 love styles

On each of the three axes, the side you picked more often gives one letter of your three-letter code.

Expression — G Direct · S Subtle
Closeness — T Together · I Independent
Conflict — F Talk now · C Cool down

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You're falling for someone you've been flirting with. You…A. Pick a good moment and say, "I think I like you" B. Text often and look out for them until they get the hint
One month in, weekday evenings look like…A. Messages and calls on and off from the commute until bedtime B. Each doing your own thing, then catching up on the day before bed
On a date, something they say really stings.A. Say right there, "That comment hurt a bit" B. Let it go for now, sort out your thoughts at home, then bring it up
You both have a completely free weekend.A. One day together, one day for yourself B. Two whole days together still wouldn't feel like enough
Your partner's birthday is coming up.A. Quietly prepare the thing they mentioned once in passing B. Write a letter packed with words like "I'm so glad you were born"
An argument starts over text.A. "Let me think for a bit, let's talk later" — and take a pause B. "I'm calling you" — and sort it out on the phone right away
The night after a fight, you're each back home.A. Reach out before bed and settle it today B. Sleep on it and get in touch tomorrow with a calmer head
Your partner looks especially great today.A. Tell them right away: "You look amazing today" B. Say nothing, just take a few extra photos of them and smile
Your partner wants to come along to your friends' get-together.A. Friends are separate; introducing them now and then is enough B. You'd love both friend groups to mix naturally
Your partner had a really rough day.A. Quietly send their favorite snack by delivery B. Tell them, "That sounds so hard. I'm always on your side"
A second fight breaks out over the same issue.A. Give it a day or two until feelings settle, then lay out your thoughts B. Don't put it off this time — talk it through to the end now
One of you has an exam or deadline week.A. See each other or video call every day, even briefly B. Each focus this week and make up for it once it's over
A four-day trip, just the two of you.A. It's fine to split up for a day and each go where you like B. A trip means being together from start to finish
Your 100-day anniversary is coming.A. Ask openly, "What do you want to do for our 100 days?" and plan it together B. Act like nothing's up, then hand over a small surprise on the day
Your partner is 30 minutes late and the apology is breezy.A. Say on the spot, "Next time, let me know in advance" B. Enjoy the date and raise it later when you're both calm
You wonder if they like you back.A. Keep creating chances to be alone together and watch how they react B. Ask honestly, "Are you interested in me, by any chance?"
You haven't heard from your partner for half a day.A. Send a "What are you up to?" first B. Assume they're busy and get on with your own day
Your partner seems upset but won't say why.A. Wait a while and ask once they seem ready to talk B. Ask right away: "Is something wrong? Tell me now"
Mid-argument, things are about to get heated.A. Stay put and see it through until it's resolved B. "Let's take ten minutes" — get some air and come back
If you moved in together someday…A. Most evenings and weekends together — the more you share, the better B. A room each; time alone is a must
Saying "I love you" is something you…A. Say several times a day, whenever it crosses your mind B. Save for the moments when your heart is truly full

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What this tool does

Pick one of two options in 21 dating scenes — 'say you like them, or let them notice?', 'make up tonight, or sleep on it?' — and your answers are tallied on three axes, expression, closeness and conflict, to give you one of 8 love styles. The result shows your type and description, how many times you picked each side of every axis, and your best and toughest matches, and each type has its own detailed page. Send your partner or a friend a link and they can answer the same 21 questions and see how many answers you share and where you match or differ on each axis. Not dating right now? That's fine: think of a past relationship or simply what you imagine you would do.

How it is calculated

The 21 questions are split 7 per axis, and each answer adds one point to one letter of one axis only. Expression is Direct (G: you say it out loud) vs Subtle (S: you show it through actions and timing); closeness is Together (T: lots of time and contact) vs Independent (I: your own time and space matter too); conflict is Talk now (F: sort it out on the spot) vs Cool down (C: calm down first, then talk). Each axis has an odd number of questions (7), so there are no ties: the letter you picked more often becomes your lean, and the three letters form your code. For example, Direct 5 / Subtle 2, Together 3 / Independent 4 and Talk now 6 / Cool down 1 gives GIF, the Honest Free Spirit. Matches follow this test's own rule. Your best match shares your closeness and conflict letters but has the opposite expression letter (one leads, one sets the pace, while you share the same rhythm of time together and of conflict). Your toughest match has the same expression letter but the opposite closeness and conflict letters (two friction points at once). For the GIF above, the best match is SIF and the toughest is GTC. There is no randomness: the same answers always give the same type. The comparison link (#vs=…) holds only your 21 A/B answers, never a name.

Read each question and tap A or B to move straight on. Tapped the wrong one? Use 'Previous'.

After the 21st answer you get your type code and description, the score on each axis (e.g. Direct 5 : Subtle 2), and your best and toughest matches.

Tap 'See my type in detail' for a page on strengths, things to watch, how this type dates, fights and makes up, and how to date them.

Use 'Compare with partner or friend' to send a link. As they play, each question shows whether they picked the same as you; at the end you see how many of the 21 answers match, the questions you split on, and how the two of you compare on each axis.

Things to know

There are no right answers. Pick what you would actually do, not what an 'ideal partner' should do, and the result will feel more like you.

If you're single, answer with a past relationship or an imagined one in mind. Sticking to one person throughout gives a clearer result.

An axis that ends close, like 4 : 3, means you have both sides in roughly equal measure. That part may shift with the situation or the person.

Couples get the most out of it by playing separately and then comparing through the link. Asking 'why did you pick that?' about the split questions is the real fun.

Frequently asked questions

How is my type decided?

Seven questions each add a point to expression (Direct or Subtle), closeness (Together or Independent) and conflict (Talk now or Cool down). The letter you picked more on each axis goes into a three-letter code like GTF. The result screen shows the score for every axis.

What are the matches based on?

A rule this test sets for itself. The type with the same closeness and conflict letters but the opposite expression letter is shown as your best match; the type with the same expression letter but opposite closeness and conflict letters is your toughest match. 'Toughest' doesn't mean incompatible — it means there's more worth talking through early on.

How do I compare with my partner?

Send the comparison link from your result screen. Whoever opens it answers the same 21 questions and sees, question by question, whether they chose what you chose. At the end they get the number of matching answers, the list of questions you split on, and a note for each axis depending on whether you're on the same side or different sides. The link carries only your answers, no name.

Can I take it if I'm single?

Yes. Think of a past relationship, or answer the way you imagine you'd act if you were dating. Comparing with friends is fun too — you get a peek at each other's dating style.

Is this a psychological test?

No. It's a 21-question game made by this site, not a validated psychological test or any kind of diagnosis. Please don't use it to judge a person or a relationship — enjoy it as a conversation starter.

This love style test is for fun and is not a validated psychological test or diagnosis. Your answers and results are not stored on any server.